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Rooted in Gottman's Lessons in Love and social psychology. Choose the group that fits where you are.
How do you show up when you get close to someone? What are your unconscious relationship patterns, and how can you build healthier relationships? This short assessment measures two things researchers use to map attachment: how much anxiety and how much avoidance you carry into close relationships.
Which one are you?
"An unconventional path to relationship work."
I didn't arrive at relationship work through a straight line.
My path has taken me through psychology, integrative health, technology, psychoeducational teaching, and now graduate clinical training in psychotherapy. But one question has followed me throughout much of my life: How can I help people feel better from the inside out — and build more fulfilling, connected, whole lives?
Ground and Connect Me grew from that question. It brings together what I've learned about physical and emotional wellbeing, human behavior, attraction, relationships, and connection — because the pieces of a good life rarely exist in isolation.
Psychology, relationship science, integrative health, nervous-system education, and graduate clinical training.
MSW Candidate
B.A. in Psychology
Social Psychology of Attraction and Relationships
The Gottman Seven Principles for Singles — Lessons in Love Leader
Level 1 Clinical Training — Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Integrative Health Practitioner
Polyvagal Theory: Principles and Practice
MSW Candidate
B.A. in Psychology
Social Psychology of Attraction and Relationships
The Gottman Seven Principles for Singles — Lessons in Love Leader
Level 1 Clinical Training — Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Integrative Health Practitioner
Polyvagal Theory: Principles and Practice
Pick whichever one calls you today.
Dating with intention, red flags, and building readiness.
Communication, conflict repair, and lasting friendship.
The science of belonging and finding your people.
How the body and mind carry your relationships.
Food, blood sugar, and the mood you bring to people.
The most underrated relationship skill there is.
Attention practices that settle the nervous system.
Movement as mood regulation, not punishment.
Meditation audio plus downloadable reference resources.
A curated starter path — where to begin today.
A library of guided practices designed to help your nervous system settle, soften, and build real resilience — the way a tree grows: slowly, deeply, and from the roots up.
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How an apartment lab, a mathematician's obsession with data, and one clinical psychologist's real-world experience became the most cited body of relationship research in the field.
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